Today, I will pause to write about two men who were virtually contemporaries. One was born into honor’s seat but by his actions arguably stripped away his own right to remain there. The other could have been given humility as a middle name, and yet history remembers him just as readily — and far more favorably — even though he met with a cruel end.

The first is Herod the Great, ancient king. While it is true that he oversaw and finalized some majestic projects in his time, he is also famous for other reasons. More commonly known is the story about his ordering the massacre of numerous infant boys; somewhat less commonly known is the story about his ordering the death of a hundred or more leading men to take place at the time of his own death so that people across the nation would still actually mourn and not rejoice. He died after an agonizing, long-term physical illness, literally eaten alive in a manner of speaking.

The second is John the Baptist, ancient prophet. He was born shortly before King Herod’s death and would grow up to be a thorn in the flesh of many, including several of Herod’s surviving family members. He had nothing to his name but the robe and belt he wore, and he was the quintessential minimalist in terms of worldly living. But his message shook the whole region and his beautiful, brash courage smacked all those in authority down a few notches without him ever having to raise a finger in violent protest. He died quickly and separated from his friends, at an order following a request steeped in hatred and drawn out through perversity. But when he died, his students and his cousin mourned with tender sincerity.

Through Harod’s life, we see that one may be born into a place of honor, but one will also choose throughout their lifetime’s actions and attitudes whether they deserve to die and be remembered in that same place…or not.

Through John’s life, we see that one may be born into an average family, and one may have little or nothing to their name when they leave this world, but they can also have left an honorable legacy. They can have changed the world for the better. They can have died with a conscience far cleaner and clearer than that of the one(s) who killed them.

I am not planning to move to the desert anytime soon, to dress in camel’s skin and eat locusts, or to take up a calling in calling out my national leadership at the top of my lungs on a daily basis.

But I do know which of those two men I want to mimic in terms of how I live my life and what legacy I want to leave behind when I am gone.

Come, friends. Let us follow a path that is truly honorable.

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Starting off a new month with a multifaceted, often misunderstood, and easy-to-lose yet hard-to-truly-gain virtue, I would like to share a short series of haiku written in honor of Job. He is often still included in that old comparison when we say someone “has the patience of Job.” But ultimately, just as much as he had patience, he had honor.

~ I ~

Would you have become

Poster child of Virtue

If you’d given up?

~ II ~

The darkest forests

Have rock-rough paths leading to

The brightest clearings.

~ III ~

Health, houses, wealth, wife,

Children, reputation, life:

Which came back dearest?

~ IV ~

Two yellow flowers,

Delicate, pierce opaque ground

To be crowned by sun.

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This is where true wisdom lives. Bending my knee in awe at the mouth of an empty tomb.

This is where it was born.

This is where true wisdom thrives. Jumping up in praise, to radiate joy from the manifestation of overflowing love, the Lord’s living heart beating in mine.

This is where it will multiple.

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Wisdom discerns who is most worthy of worship.

Wisdom discerns how to balance requests and thanksgivings.

Wisdom discerns what it means for each person to honor God from the heart with our own gifting, through our own personality.

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Wisdom discerns the presence of true treasures and true worth.

Wisdom discerns where true priorities should be placed and held.

Wisdom discerns where true allegiance lies.

Wisdom discerns where our true position is in relation to Christ’s greatness…and His goodness.

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Yes, I am behind in my regular postings. Urgent and unexpected surgery threw off a number of regular things in life this month.

Yes, it is June and not December. Yet, when I think of wisdom, I automatically think of the Magi and their response to the birth of Jesus Christ.

Yes, we are not sure there were exactly three Magi and the famous song “We Three Kings” written to remember their roles is not to be as revered as Scripture. Still, there is beauty and truth there, in the verses of that hymn.

When I think of the concept of wisdom, a very important synonym for me is discernment. Looking back on the nativity accounts and the words of “We Three Kings” leads me to recall some simple truths about discernment for those of us who want to embrace God’s way.

Thus, I will allow those truths to inspire four pieces of word art, to be created and posted each day through the rest of this week, to round out this month’s spotlight on wisdom.

Please return to view them. And I pray even now each will bless you. 💜

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Two men separated by thousands of years. One was a priest, the other a king.

Both possessed some degree of worldly wealth. But each has been better known both in his own time and in our minds today for the wealth of his wisdom.

Yet, for all the wisdom they possessed and passed on, neither was perfect.

They were all too human.

The first, before he heard of another way, was a worshiper of false, dead gods in the religious sense. And the second, though he knew from infancy of another way, became a worshiper of other types of false, dead gods — the gods of plenty and pleasure.

And yet…the records of their words and ideas still speak truth to us today. Why is this so?

Because what is really good and true always and only comes from God. And what is really wise and prudent always and only comes from God.

So whether we speak of Jethro of ancient Midian, King Solomon of Israel, or any other wise person who has lived since, we would do well to heed a two-sided fundamental reminder.

We should never elevate the speaker of the wisdom to esteem them as much as the Giver of the wisdom. And we should never forget that the Giver of all wisdom sees the potential for redemption of and communication through every human He has ever made.

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Instead of writing more about patience in this five-Sunday month, I want to pause and breathe.

I want to stop and dwell for a little while on the greatest virtue of all.

I want to exhale hatred and fear and angst and rage and grief.

And I want to inhale healing and hope and peace and trust.

I want to love.

I have read that George Floyd was my brother. I know he was already my brother in a general human sense. But I have read that he was a Christ-follower like me.

So that makes him my brother twice over. And while he was a stranger to me in this life, I will be honored to embrace him in Heaven one day.

And even though he was a stranger to me, a man I “wouldn’t know from Adam” on the street while he was living, I would never wish suffering upon another–let alone suffering a death like he did.

God, have mercy.

My heart grieves over every act of mercilessness. Every act of harming. Every act of dehumanization. Every act of cruel destruction.

And when any such act seems to be fueled by discrimination, it does more than “add insult to injury.” It slathers a despicable coating over a heep of seething evil.

Where is love? That greatest virtue…?

True love is in God’s heart that still beats with the desire for our redemption and our best. And it is in our hearts when we are attune to Him.

I realize in this moment that I don’t really want to be colorblind. Because if I were, I wouldn’t be able to appreciate and revel in glorious diversity and the gifts that all of us bring to the banquet of humanity.

I don’t want to be colorblind. Instead, I want to have x-ray vision of the Spirit that looks at other people and automatically sees the soul. I want to want the best for the stranger beside me, no matter what. And if they should become less of a stranger to me, I want to want their best even more.

Yes, let this be the heart of such love in me. And let that heart, that vision, do some small part today to melt the despicable coating and drive back the seething evil.

May I…may we…be conduits for the love and peace that leads to unity.

How God must smile when He sees us unified. And how He must weep when He sees us divided and hurting one another. My heart aches for His heartache.

I want to close these thoughts with a very short, untitled poem in Mr. Floyd’s honor:

When we watched your struggle —

Your murder, your dying —

We saw your skin tone,

Screamed at compounded injustice.

But God saw your soul

And wept at your choking

And ran to embrace you,

To welcome you home.

Rest now, earlier than you planned to,

Peacefully, in the arms of the One

Who has always loved you.

While here we remain and struggle…

To look past each other’s shells…

To love.

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Every solid long-term or marriage relationship requires a great deal more than attraction and charm to remain vibrant and to grow even more meaningful. One of the most important ingredients in that recipe is a steady and liberal dose of patience. That is true as the years go by, but also in the early stages, when the relationship first forms and then stands or fails during its initial tests.

I have known about this in theory, of course, after studying marriage and family counseling two decades ago and now taking further counseling classes again. And I have had the privilege of observing couples who demonstrated such patience to one another.

But I have always felt a particular appreciation for a good man who will exhibit patience towards a woman he cares for. Such behavior is one of the most endearing human displays of Christlikeness that I can think of.

And, dare I say that I have often despaired when I looked around me and considered what a lack of such men I have seen out in the world. These days, it seems that a man either has to apologize for being a man, or that he has to be assertive, aggressive, or forceful to prove that true “men” really do still exist.

While I have worked and served and prayed, I have observed and waited. I have indeed known and thought these things in theory. But I despaired at some moments. Would my own patience and hoping pay off, in the realm of relationships? Would it be possible that such a good man could still exist, and that he would be interested in me romantically?

Enter one man named Paul, stage right. A man who has turned out to show me incredible patience, from nearly the first day I met him.

Yesterday, while we spent time enjoying each other’s company and swapping stories on a bench underneath a cobalt, cloudless sky, listening to rushing water and birdsong, I rested against his shoulder and prayed something like the following in a whisper: “Dear God, I wish every woman in the world could be loved like this. This is the kind of beautiful human love that is such a gift for a woman’s heart. Thank You.”

Before we met up for some quality time yesterday, I had recently sent Paul a link to a classic Billy Joel song (since Paul and I like to share fun and meaningful songs daily with each other). I told him that I have always loved the melody of the song, but now that I was listening to it again at a different stage in my life, there were some traits of the woman as described in the lyrics that I really did NOT want to possess or show–especially towards him.

Later, the idea took root in my mind. What if I could use the tune and rewrite the words to reflect my appreciation for Paul and his patience and gentleness and goodness shown to me? In a fit of inspiration, I did so.

And yesterday, near the end of our time spent together, I sang him the result.

I smile at the irony, how I started this month with a profile sketch of a man named Paul who wrote about love being patient. And I am ending the month with a profile of a man named Paul, as sketched in song lyrics, who has showed a very patient and growing love to me already. Below, I would like to share my new words with you, as well as recordings of both the original song and the melody alone.

As I share this piece of my heart along with a reflection of the man who has captured it, I hope the words will bless you.

Round the bend in my path, I looked up and I saw you

Felt a tug in my soul, a sweet longing to know you

All the hints of true goodness, they turned out to be

May I never forget what a blessing your trust is to me

Through the ups and the downs, you spoke truth I needed

Brought the tears to my eyes, held my heart in its bleeding

Then you prayed with conviction to set my pain free

May I never forget what a blessing your words are to me

Oh, you have shown such a light

You have laid down your pride

You have beckoned me near

Oh, you have stepped through each door

You have given me more

You have shattered my fears

You rejoice in my hopes and delight in my laughter

You wait out my storming and draw me close after

Through it all, we grow deep, like the roots of a tree

May I never forget what a blessing your heart to me

Oh, you have shown such a light

You have laid down your pride

You have beckoned me near

Oh, you have stepped through each door

You have given me more

You have shattered my fears

Take my hand, we’ll walk on until we reached the next bend

Turn the way that He leads and cherish every season

May His grace be our heartbeat, His presence our peace

With God as my help, may I never forget what a blessing your love is to me

The original…
Piano cover
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